What do most guys do when they get dumped?
They start freaking out about how they will find a new girlfriend.
Then, when they finally manage to land a date three months later, it's overthink time.
Should you take her out for drinks or to the movies, buy her flowers, compliment her looks, whether she really likes you or not, all that jazz...
Wrong move.
You can't control what others, especially a girl you just met, thinks of you.
So don't bother wasting your time trying to influence her opinion.
And, certainly, never listen to (mostly females) who tell you to "just be yourself".
Worst. Advice. Ever.
Instead, focus on YOU.
Make yourself more attractive.
Hit the gym.
Fix your diet.
Get in shape.
Upgrade your style.
Find a mission to pursue in life.
All of those will make you more attractive to women.
And less needy in general.
At which point, it doesn't matter one bit what you do on your date.
She's already attracted to you.
Game. Set. Match.
And if, for whatever reason, things don't work out with this particular chick...
There's always a new one just around the corner.
That's called being outcome independent.
The same applies to training.
You see all these people claiming publicly how they're gonna bench 400 pounds by this time next year, deadlift 600 pounds within the next three months, or whatever.
Then get upset when they don't hit those numbers.
I used to make this same mistake for a looong time.
I'd write down my goals in my training journal, consult the calendar, then backtrack from there as if I were John Nash, the wizard mathemagician, in A Beautiful Mind.
"If I can add 5 pounds to the bar each week, I'll hit my goal in 8 weeks."
Sounds great on paper.
But the human body doesn't work like that in real life.
Progress, beyond the beginner stage, is not linear.
You can't control what happens in the gym on any given day.
Maybe you had a hard time falling asleep last night.
Or you still haven't recovered from last weekend's hockey tournament.
So your performance won't be at 100%.
I'm not saying you shouldn't have goals.
I'm saying don't obsess over a specific outcome.
Instead. Be outcome independent.
Chasing numbers will only lead to plateaus and frustration down the line.
Or worse, injury.
So do the opposite.
Focus on what you can control.
Train hard.
Week in. Week out.
You'll reach your goals in due time.
Who cares whether that happens 3, 6 or 18 months from now?
Do the right things long enough consistently and you WILL get to where you're going.
And with a lot less anxiety to boot.
Here's how:
http://www.NextLevelHockeyTraining.com
Yunus Barisik